My Life So Far

My Life So Far

The following questions

explore my personal life, upbringing, friends, etc.


98: WHAT WERE YOUR FAMILY'S ECONOMIC CIRCUMSTANCES WHEN YOU WERE GROWING UP?

Solid upper middle class. My parents were both computer programmers. My dad was a senior computer programmer, my mom was a computer specialist. I grew

up in Hermosa Beach CA, exactly 4.5 blocks to the beach. Aside from my bro locking my out of the house every once in a while things were pretty good. My

mom and dad made a very radical decision to not raise us in any particular religion on the belief that religious indoctrination is inappropriate and a

child is a person and have the right to make their own decision about what they believe. My mom took a lot of crap in the community for that decision,

but I am grateful for her courage. While this is a common practice now, it was unheard of back in the 60's. At some point I became interested in

religion and my mom and I explored the religious options in our community and had a great time and learn a lot together. About all I came away with is

that Catholic Churches have great music, but the Krishna's put on a better party. My mom and I would volunteer together, and she taught me my

volunteer ethic. My father taught me to think critically, but playing devil's advocate in debates. I am very close with not only my immediate

family, but also my extended family.

99: DESCRIBE YOUR CHILDHOOD: Aside from my bro locking my out of the house every once in a while things were

pretty good. My mom and dad made a very radical decision to not raise us in any particular religion on the belief that religious indoctrination is

inappropriate and a child is a person and have the right to make their own decision about what they believe. My mom took a lot of crap in the community

for that decision, but I am grateful for her courage. While this is a common practice now, it was unheard of back in the 60's. At some point I

became interested in religion and my mom and I explored the religious options in our community and had a great time and learn a lot together. About all

I came away with is that Catholic Churches have great music, but the Krishna's put on a better party. My mom and I would volunteer together, and she

taught me my volunteer ethic. My father taught me to think critically, but playing devil's advocate in debates. I am very close with not only my

immediate family, but also my extended family. I was a beach kid and spent most of my free time at the beach. As for friends, I am still close with some

of my childhood friends. I have almost always had more male friends then female friends. I remember finding girls pretty stupid. Boys talked about

interesting things. Girls talked about hair, which seemed stupid to me. Now, I wish I had paid attention. Then I would be able to do something cool with

my hair aside from just pulling it back out of my eyes.

100: IF YOU CURRENTLY HAVE A SIGNIFICANT OTHER, TELL US ABOUT HIM/HER. HOW DID YOU MEET?

WHAT IS THE BEST THING ABOUT THEM? I met my husband when I first moved to Florida. He was playing fiddle in a local contra dance band. I thought he was

really cute. I tried to get his attention and failed. I thought he was married, he thought I was just being nice. Anyway, a few years later, we catch up

again. Both of us were coming out of horrid relationships. I was at a Christmas party and he was there, and he was talking to my best friend, who, as it

turned out, new him pretty well. So, I sidled up and started talking to him. Things went well after that. Aside from the fact that he is super cute (and

yes, cuteness counts), he likes me for me. I don't have to be something I am not around him. Plus he is really patient. I can be really clueless,

and he had the patience to wait for me to come around.

103: TELL US ABOUT YOUR TWO BEST FRIENDS.
1.Heidi Lovett. She is one of my

best friends. We were introduced through a mutual friend when I first moved to Florida. We both think it is rather funny that neither of us keeps up

with the friend that introduced us. I like Heidi for a whole lot of reasons. She is nice. Truly a nice person. Compassionate, responsible and ethical

(which is my criteria for friends.) She is also very smart. An environmentalist and marine scientist. I am so proud of all she has done and

accomplished. She is an amazing woman and an excellent cook to boot. I love her family. I like the man she married this past year (a man my husband and

I feel is actually worthy of her), and am honored that they asked me to sing the Sheva Brachot at their wedding.

2. David Lapides. I met

David when he was working at a bulk mail house that I was doing business with. We became friends when we realized that we both liked the same comic

books (the Sandman Series). He decided that we should be friends, despite the fact that I am a chick. And, we have been great friends ever since. Again,

he has the traits I look for in a friend (ethical, compassionate and responsible – although he would argue that he isn't that compassionate, but he

really is). Dave and I have been through a lot together, and I cherish his friendship. What I like best about him is that he is the friend who calls me

up and says things like: "Muppets from Outerspace – lets go!"

104: HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR ROLE IN YOUR CIRCLE OF FRIENDS? Well, it

used to be that I was the one who got everyone together. I am not afraid to make decisions and that is required if you are to get a large group to do

anything, just make a decision and move forward. Nowadays, my circle of friends is smaller and closer, and much more of a homebody. I don't waste

too much time with acquaintances as I had in my past. So, I don't know what role I play with my friends. I try to be a good friend and that is about

it.