Accomplishments and Regrets

Accomplishments and Regrets

78: WHAT

WAS YOUR MOST HUMBLING MOMENT? This is an interesting question since I am aware that I am a dork and I have known this for years. So, when I do

something stupid, I am not at all surprised, because, I am a dork, what would people expect? I struggled to come up with an answer to this question,

because to say I have never been humbled sounds egotistical, but because I am aware of my fallibility, when I fail, I am not shocked, so… it is

hard to be humble. I would rather not list all of the stupid things I have done over my life, despite not being humbled by them. The only incident I can

think of is one time I was talking to my friend Jason. I was talking about how selfish I am and how "it is all about me," and he rejoined that

I was one of the most giving people he knew. I was really taken aback because that was not how I thought about myself. I like to think of myself being a

firm believer in enlightened self-interest. I also like people to do nice things for me. I hadn't realized how much I gave back to my friends. I

mean, I have always been proud of my friends and the fact that every friend I have ever had has become friends with my other friends. I have excellent

taste in friends. But, I was shocked that they got something out of being friends with me and that it wasn't just me taking from them.

79:

WHAT ACTION(S) OR ACCOMPLISHMENT(S) IN YOUR LIFE ARE YOU PROUDEST OF? Feral Cat Management programs. As the Director of Volunteer Services at the Los

Angeles SPCA, I wrote their Feral Cat Management program. This program was very successful and reduced our cat population by 18% over a 5-year period.

In practical terms, it meant cat season went from a 5 – 6 month long affair (where litter after litter is brought into the shelter for euthanasia, to

about a 2 week period where we actually had too many cats, and during some months, actually had no cats to adopt in the shelter. All at a cost of only

$10,000/year to administrate. My management system and description of what and why was adopted by the California Veterinary Medical Association (CVMA),

and eventually the American VMA. I have seen copies of my program put into practice all over the country and around the world. Every once in a while I

get sent a copy of a program by a friend, as they want to know if I think the program is operating ethically, and I always laugh because it is almost

always my exact program photocopied with a different logo on it. I am proud of this not only because it worked so well and was extremely cost effective,

but also because it is the one thing I have done that has reduce suffering for cats all over the world.

80: WHAT IS YOUR GREATEST REGRET? This

might seem strange, but I strive to live a life without regret, so I don't have many. People regret what they don't do, not what they do. I have

known this for years. The truth of this is that my greatest regret is that I went to a club in Los Angeles one time with some friends. I remember we

went to go see a band called Babushka. I think it was at the tick tock. Anyway, we got there and sat down at a long table and I sat next to a woman and

we immediately hit it off. It was like we were old friends. So immediate was our friendship that the guys I had come with couldn't understand why I

didn't introduce them to what was obviously a good friend of mine. The reason I didn't is because I was just getting to know her myself. At the

end of the evening, I wanted to get her phone number and keep in touch, but felt weird because I didn't know how to ask without it seeming like I

was hitting on her, which I wasn't because I am hopelessly heterosexual. Anyway, we didn't exchange numbers and I never saw her again. My

greatest regret is not just being forward and suggesting we keep in touch and become friends. I know I lost out on a good

friend.