What Shaped Me

What Shaped Me

81: DESCRIBE A MAJOR EVENT OR

ISSUE THAT'S AFFECTED YOU PERSONALLY: The Women's lib movement. I would not be who I am today if it had not been for the women who came before

me who worked to free women from a narrowly defined life of marriage and children. Women of my generation and those that come after us should be

eternally grateful to the women who fought to make us free to make our own choices about what kind of life we want for ourselves. Along these same

lines, we are no longer chained to motherhood, and instead, for educated women in western societies, we can decide if and when to become a mother making

society better for everyone.

82: WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT ISSUE OR PROBLEM FACING YOU TODAY? My husband and I need to decide if we want to try

and get pregnant again.

83: WHAT IS THE BIGGEST OBSTACLE YOU'VE HAD TO OVERCOME IN YOUR LIFE? The terror of being stalked and coming to terms

with the after effects of this sort of mental abuse. It took me a couple of years to come to terms with the constant terror I was experiencing. I found

a very good therapist, who had experience with PTS, and she helped me learn some coping techniques and within a month my panic attacks had stopped

completely. The most important moment in my emotional recovery occurred in England in 2001. I had a consulting job in Swindon and was taking weekends to

do some sightseeing. I re-found myself and shed the fear that had been my constant companion for the previous few years. I rediscovered my wonder and

the confidence that I could make my way safely in the world. I no longer needed to be the prisoner of my fears that I had become. It was truly

liberating.

84: IF YOU COULD CHANGE ONE THING ABOUT YOURSELF, WHAT WOULD IT BE?
I would have the body I had when I was about 34. I think

that was about the height of my physical best. I was no longer the scrawny little girl, but I hadn't yet put on extra weight. I was a woman at her

physical peak.