Choice: Responsibility vs. Freedom
If you thought we were past elevatorgate, you were wrong. William Hamby, the Atlanta Atheism Examiner, posted an article where he tried to answer the question of why there aren’t that many women in the Atheism movement. He thought sufficient time had passed since elevatorgate that we could actually talk about solving the problem elevatorgate was supposed to bring to our attention. He did this by datamining. And yes, he is a man after my own heart because that’s what I used to do when I was still a professional in the workaday world.
Anyway, what he found is apparently pissing off the rabid feminists in the atheist movement because it turns out that what atheist women really care about aren’t the things that rabid feminist atheist women care about. Which means that their prescriptions for solving the problem probably won’t work. What Hamby says he found atheist women are concerned about is politics (not necessarily gender politics, but politics in general), their families and kids and sex (and again, not gender politics sex, but actual sexy sex).
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“In” Love and Off Target
I have been dating a wonderful man for a year. We love each other — no question about that — but when I tell him I’m IN love with him, he never responds. He says he doesn’t know what that means. He asked me to explain the difference between loving someone and being in love. He says it doesn’t make sense to him. Please help me explain to him what it means to be in love. I need to know that he’s in love with me, not that he just loves me.
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Is God Angry?
Question to Billy Graham:
Is the God you read about in the Old Testament different from the God of the New Testament? A friend of mine says that the Old Testament God is angry and cruel, while in the New Testament He is loving and kind. Is this true?
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Mom Not Coping Well with Son’s Death
(Note: This is a Dear Abbey article and not Billy Graham, but sometimes she is just off base and this was one of those times).
My younger brother died unexpectedly two years ago. He was only 27. Since then, my parents have befriended his close friends. There are two couples, the "Smiths," who have a baby they named after my brother (my parents are his godparents), and the "Joneses" (Bill Jones was my brother’s best friend growing up). My parents want to invite them to every holiday dinner or event we have. My husband and I host the dinners at our home. The problem is, the Smiths and the Joneses are inconsiderate guests. They are always late — an hour or more — and my mother always wants to wait for them! They eat, run, and barely talk to my husband. Sometimes they fail to show up without even a phone call. My parents are very forgiving and do not seem offended by it. My husband says we will no longer host any holiday dinners if the Smiths and Joneses are coming. However, I don’t want to upset my parents. I understand their need to keep a part of my brother alive. Nor do I want to stop having holiday parties at my home. Are my husband and I wrong to say enough is enough and ban the friends? How should we handle this without upsetting my already emotionally fragile parents? — DISGUSTED HOSTESS
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Giving Up on Yourself
Question: I know I need help, because alcohol is about to ruin me. My wife threw me out last week and said not to come back until I’ve stopped drinking, but I don’t have the strength. I have friends who’ve gone through lots of rehab, but it never did them any good. Has God given up on me?
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Get Some Real Medical Advice
Both of my parents died of cancer, and some of my other relatives have had it, also. I know I ought to go to the
doctor and get tested, but I’m afraid to do it. If I pray hard enough, will God protect me, anyway?
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Raising Kids Without Religion
July 13 2007
believe our children should have religion crammed down their throats, but should be free to make up their own minds about it when they get older. But some
of our relatives say we ought to give them religious instruction now. Are they right?
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I know you aren’t supposed to hate people, but
someone hurt me very badly a couple of years back, and there just isn’t any way I can stop hating him for what he did. Maybe if he asked for my
forgiveness I could do it, but he hasn’t (and probably never will). What would you say to someone like me?
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Who is God?
How can someone who doesn’t know very much about God decide what’s true about him and what isn’t? I’d like to believe, but people have so many different ideas about God that I’m afraid I’ll end up believing the wrong thing.
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June 6 2007
A couple of weeks ago, a young girl of 14 wrote Dear Abby
to ask her about whether she should have sex with her boyfriend or not. (see: http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20070525 2nd article)
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